０．Review of the last week’s message
◆ There are treasures hidden in marriage
◆Marriage is where we learn to love and accept those who are different from us
◆The two leave their parents and are united as one
◆God put the two together
◆We receive from Christ the love we need to maintain successful marriage
１．Recommendations to the couple at wedding
◆Man’s role and woman’s role for successful marriage
◆Submit to your husband
◆The husband is the head of the wife
◆Respect your husband
３．Men are Supermen
◆Healthy pride as man： I am strong and trustworthy
◆Men become “manly” by being trusted, respected, and relied upon by wives
◆If that does not happen, men will say, “I no longer have confidence to make you happy.” – men’s number 1 reason for divorce
４．Is it difficult to submit？
◆It is not difficult to submit to someone you trust.
◆Wives’ responsibility or husbands’ responsibility? “Make it easier for me to trust you!”
◆People become trustworthy by being trusted.
◆Love your wives
◆Just like the Christ loved the church
６．What is a leader?
◆Three ways to lead people－where does authority come： power/threat, reward, love
◆As the Lord and Head, how did Jesus lead?
◆Not to satisfy one’s ego: Leaders are not to take advantage of their position
◆For the benefit of those they lead
◆Meaningless without love (1 Corinthians 13::3
７．Submit to each other
◆Put your partner’s best interest before yours
◆As the helper, wives should support husbands leadership
◆Husbands put their wives best interest before his with sacrificial love
Ephesians 5 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ.  Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.  As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.  Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,  that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, [  For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,  because we are members of his body.  “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”  This mystery is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church;  however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.